For quite some time now (quite some time being a few years) I get the feeling that my parents are no longer in love. In fact, if you observed our family for just a few days, you would see that my dad doesn't smile often and sits on the computer downstairs and my mom works hard cleaning the house. You would also notice that they don't touch eachother, kiss eachother, or talk to eachother like lovers do. My mom's name has become "You".
I don't know what happened a few years ago. My mom thinks that it's after we came back from Scotland in 2007. She thinks he misses living there and misses his family and everything. And why not? It's beautiful and we've got no family here. But my mom left Poland and my dad left Scotland and they got married and had two kids. Of course, they weren't supposed to live in this house for more than 2 years, but that doesn't really have anything to do with their relationship.
When my mom picks my dad up from work they don't say hi to each other and they don't give each other a kiss hello like they used to. Being in the backseat and seeing my dad get in and give my mom a kiss would be a normal thing to do. I got used to it. Now I'm used to not seeing that happen. Will it ever happen again? Doubtful.
My mom says that my dad is so charming around other people. It's true. They go to parties as a couple and talk to each other and put big smiles on and laugh with their friends, but they're never touching. It wouldn't really bother me that much if I knew they loved each other but now I just don't know.
My dad thinks that my mom buys too much food and too many things, but she didn't have much growing up. Her family's apartment was the only one in the whole building that had a tv so everybody went there to watch the news. This is the time in my mom's life for her to have luxuries. She works, she has money. Maybe she went a little over-board with her house renovations; spending thousands of dollars on various things but in the end it will all be worth it when they have to sell the house. Maybe she gained a bit of weight. So what? She has time to work it off. Instead of acting disgusted my dad should support her. That's the only way she's going to get anywhere.
They say that one of the most important things in a relationship is communication, and my parents have none of it. They only speak to each other if they have to. "Do you want tea? When will you do this?" "Oh, are you talking to me?" "Yes, I'm talking to you." I'm sick of my mom always saying that she's disappointed because my dad yelled about something, and my dad yelled about the house not being spotless because he can't handle anything below perfect which is below perfect in the first place because my mom was in bed sick.
Some things just aren't meant to be. But I'm here, and if my parents never found each other and fell in love I wouldn't be here. Surely that has to have happened for a reason? I'd like to think that way. I don't want to imagine what will happen after my brother and I leave the house to go to University and then start our own lives. I don't know if my dad will go live in Scotland and my mom will go live in Poland like they obviously want to... but if they do then perhaps it will be the best thing.
